If you’re ever on YouTube, there’s a pretty good chance you’ve seen a video by The Holderness Family. Their first video to go viral was their hilarious ode to Christmas pajamas and the rest as they say is history. Personally, I love their videos. Each of them is so infectious and always brings a smile to my face. I’ve also come to admire Kim and Penn as they continuously working to better themselves and help others. They also have a blog and podcast too and have not been afraid to really put themselves admitting their faults and finding ways to work with them instead of against them.
The other way in which they have recently put themselves out there is in their new book Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better At It? Using humor and self reflection, the pair explains the things that they learned over the course of their relationship and marriage. They delve into how while everything may look picture perfect on screen, it is not always that way at home. They are human after all! They are also very open about their mental health and the influence which this holds on their lives and the way in which they understand each other. Kim and Penn are both very pro-mental health discussions and I love their openness regarding this.
inside Everybody Fights, Kim and Penn break down ten of their biggest fights and the lessons which they learned from them. They continuously remind the reader that they are not licensed therapists and encourage the reader to take the information presented at face value – they are a couple who has been there and has learned from it. They also advocate for their own marriage counselor who has helped them become stronger through their ups and downs. One of the messages that I took from them was how important communication is in a relationship. Be it verbal communication, body language, tone of voice, actions, or miscommunication, it all has an impact on your relationship and the likeness of a misunderstanding or fight occurring. And if you are aware of this, you can find a foundation which to work through these miscommunications and come out stronger both as an individual and within the relationship.
As many of you know I’m not married so you might be asking, why did I decide to read this book? Well, being a fan of the authors obviously played a role in why I wanted to read it but, I was also intrigued by the title. I wanted to know what kind of advice they would give and see how it helped their relationship and marriage. Yes, this is a marriage book but, it can also be taken as a way to improve your relationship. And I’m not just talking about a romantic relationship. I honestly feel like there are lessons in Everybody Fights which can be implemented in so many different ways. Each lesson is brought to the reader in such an easy way. Again, I love the dynamic between Kim and Penn, and felt like I was getting advice from old friends. I finished with a smile on my face and a good feeling in my heart and thought this was well worth the read!
Rating: 5 Stars
**I received this book for free from Publisher in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.**